My best mate recently came onto the guy I really fancied right infront of me. I’m gutted because she knows how I feel about him. I’ve been thinking about pulling her a side and having a word because this isn’t the first time she’s done this but I don’t want to be one of those people who put guys before mates. What would you suggest?
From Clare from Wigan
You’re right, this is a case of putting mates before guys and clearly that’s something your supposed ‘mate’ isn’t doing. If she knows how you feel about him and has done this kind of stuff before, she clearly isn’t a good friend. This is not acceptable and the issue needs to be addressed.
Pull her aside and tell her you feel she’s not playing fair, that you have confided in her about liking a guy and that you feel uncomfortable by her actions. I can’t help but think shes the sort of person that thinks its ok to come onto mates bfs too?
Give her a chance after your talk and if it continues…ditch that bitch! x
Tues 15th Jan 2011
Dear 2 Love My Lips,
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for a year and we live together. On many occasions when he’s gone on nights out, he doesn’t come home and I don’t hear from him until later on the next day. His phone is switched off and there is no way of knowing where he is.
He knows I’m not happy, it leads to arguments and makes me not trust him. He says he stays at the lads but I don’t believe him, help!
Sandra from Birmingham
This is not good.
If this is happening a year into the honeymoon period, what’s it going be like down the line? You’ve got to ask yourself are you willing to put up with it? Our answer would be, hell no!! If he doesn’t want to come home to you then we suggest you find someone who does. You are worth more than that. Sounds like he’s still living his single life and wants to be with you when it convenient for him. Tut tut, the term, “can’t have your cake and eat it” springs to mind….Sandra, we suggest you go find someone who wants to snuggle up next to you: DITCH!
The 2 Love My Lips Crew
Dear 2 Love My Lips,
Georgia from Southport.