Hey 2LML,
My best mate recently came onto the guy I really fancied right infront of me. I’m gutted because she knows how I feel about him. I’ve been thinking about pulling her a side and having a word because this isn’t the first time she’s done this but I don’t want to be one of those people who put guys before mates. What would you suggest?
From Clare from Wigan
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Verdict:
THEN
You’re right, this is a case of putting mates before guys and clearly that’s something your supposed ‘mate’ isn’t doing. If she knows how you feel about him and has done this kind of stuff before, she clearly isn’t a good friend. This is not acceptable and the issue needs to be addressed.
Pull her aside and tell her you feel she’s not playing fair, that you have confided in her about liking a guy and that you feel uncomfortable by her actions. I can’t help but think shes the sort of person that thinks its ok to come onto mates bfs too?
Give her a chance after your talk and if it continues…ditch that bitch! x
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Tues 15th Jan 2011
Dear 2 Love My Lips,
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for a year and we live together. On many occasions when he’s gone on nights out, he doesn’t come home and I don’t hear from him until later on the next day. His phone is switched off and there is no way of knowing where he is.
He knows I’m not happy, it leads to arguments and makes me not trust him. He says he stays at the lads but I don’t believe him, help!
Sandra from Birmingham
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Verdict:
This is not good.
If this is happening a year into the honeymoon period, what’s it going be like down the line? You’ve got to ask yourself are you willing to put up with it? Our answer would be, hell no!! If he doesn’t want to come home to you then we suggest you find someone who does. You are worth more than that. Sounds like he’s still living his single life and wants to be with you when it convenient for him. Tut tut, the term, “can’t have your cake and eat it” springs to mind….Sandra, we suggest you go find someone who wants to snuggle up next to you: DITCH!
The 2 Love My Lips Crew
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Tues 8th Jan 2011
Dear 2 Love My Lips,
I’ve been with my partner for 2 years and got married 4 months ago. I’m 6 months gone with our first child and recently found that he’s been sex texting other woman. I’m devastated as he always made me feel special and we were just beginning the rest of lives together.
I’m scared about being a single mum and need some advise. My family and friends tell me to get rid but he’s assured me he’s never cheated. What do I do?
I’m scared about being a single mum and need some advise. My family and friends tell me to get rid but he’s assured me he’s never cheated. What do I do?
Georgia from Southport.
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Verdict:
Hmmmm……This is a Vernon Kay situation and not an Ashley Cole. I think he has emotionally violated the code of trust but if he says he’s not physically done anything and you’ve never had previous suspicions, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt.
It’s something you will never forget and granted it may instil a little paranoia but if you think he’s worth fighting for, then maybe you should give him a second chance. Find a way of working through it.
Make it clear it upsets you and it’s not acceptable behaviour - if it happens again, we will whip out the ditch stamp!! Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!
The 2 Love My Lips Crew
